There’s so much info about tucking and gaffs (less so) but to all new trans girls.. just get some cotton panties like boyshorts style and push it back gently.
Like you might have to do slightly (slightly) more for tighter clothes or different fabrics but like… ya don’t need to tape yourself every day… or ever… and gaffs are good but unless you’re wearing something tight n thin cotton boyshorts or some other strong underwear will do the trick.
Like all this info pretending like you need special gaffs, tape, to shove ur testes up into your inguinal canal, etc. is classist, physically harmful, and preventatively daunting information to be spreading without disclaimers like this.
Idk if this has been said before but a long time ago another trans lady and I kinda realized we could just wear 2 pairs of underwear and call it a day without taping or anything fancy. Its definitely a cheap alternative and Ive been doing it for 6 years 👍
I wear jeggings to work and when im out and about and I never get looks or comments, idk if this is helpful to anyone tho 😅
to every transfemme person: please read this it will save you so much time, money, and energy
I had a friend who wore some layers compression shorts and called it a day
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reminder that if you’re questioning your gender, “what do I want?” and “what will make me happy?” tend to be much more useful questions than “what am I, really?”
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today i was talking to my therapist about being upset that my dad wanted a daughter and she told me ‘your father is crying by a grave of his own making that has no corpse in it. you do not need to fill it for him and are not required to weep beside him’ and I had to take a sip of water bc my mind stopped working for a moment
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I don’t think cis women understand how traumatic the side effects of being born with a functioning uterus/vagina can be for AFAB people who fall under the Genderqueer or Trans umbrellas.
Like no woman enjoys getting their period. But for GNC folk who do get one, suddenly it’s a week of their lives where a body part they might vehemently dislike suddenly comes front and center. And just because periods aren’t discussed doesn’t mean they’re not capturing your full attention. Every month you gotta keep an eye on the clock so you don’t bleed through or worse. Every month you gotta deal with being able to find a bathroom you’d be comfortable using—or hold it in, no matter the damage. Every month this body part that you’d rather not have hurts—and can hurt a lot.
Every other week is fine, you can just live blocking out the parts of your body you don’t like. Until you are betrayed by your body
My gender is…..an experience
Lee says:
The word “transgender” is an umbrella term that is inclusive of (but not forced upon) anyone who identifies as a gender that they were not assigned at birth.
- Both binary people and non-binary people are equally transgender.
- Being trans without dysphoria is possible.
- Gender expression ≠ gender identity, as shown on the genderbread person
- More info: Trans resources masterpost or Ally resources for cis people
Again, if you don’t fully identify as the gender you were assigned at birth 100% of the time, you can call yourself trans. That’s it, there’s no other criteria you need to meet to be trans.
Followers, feel free to add on!
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I’ve been talking a lot about my book, and specifically encouraging people to buy it, but there are lots of ways to support the book without spending any money! I would be absolutely thrilled to see people checking it out from the library, and to have it available in many libraries across the country. If it’s not available at yours yet, requesting a purchase is a very simple process! I have requested many purchases at my local library and they put the book on hold for me and send me an email once it arrives. Libraries are literally the best! I worked in libraries for 14 years (4 as a volunteer, 10 as an employee) before I began working full time as a freelance artist. There are multiple scenes that take place in libraries in my book :) And if there is someone who wants to read my book, but wouldn’t feel safe bringing it home, I hope that e might be able to read it secretly, safely, and for free in a library. Here’s my book’s Goodreads page, and here is all of the information you need to request a library purchase:
GENDER QUEER: A MEMOIR by Maia Kobabe ISBN: 1549304003 (ISBN13: 9781549304002) Publisher: Lion Forge Comics, 2019
You GNC folks here will probably enjoy this book. A /lot/ of my own personal journey was mirrored on these pages and this whole novel was extremely cathartic (and personal) as a result
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The most e p i c opening scene ever
how could you not include a link to the video
https://youtu.be/ffyKY3Dj5ZE
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Hey guys
I completely COMPLETELY forgot that tumblr doesn’t like notify you when you get messages in your inbox,
So I think I answered all of them
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Anonymous asked:
I recently began identifying as genderfluid. I'm afab and the name I was given is Chloe (a name that I have grown to dislike). At first, I would just go by Cole on "guy days" but I was wondering if I should just change my name to something gender neutral? I have a few ideas, but I don't know which would be better.
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It’s up to you
I have a name that could’ve been easily engineered to been gender neutral, but it didn’t suit me, so I went with a different name.
But really it’s up to you and whatever you feel comfortable with!
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Anonymous asked:
I am genderfluid, but all my fre inds and everyone knows me as a girl. I struggle because no one knows and I feel out of place in the world. I lied and said I was a lesbian so no one would suspect the truth. What do I do to help this trap I am in? I don't know how to come out
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You can always come out just to one person! Identity is not always a sure and definite thing. I’ve gone through a couple of different sexuality labels, I think it’s the nature of the beast when you’re queer and trying to figure yourself out in an environment of heteronormativity.
Tell someone. I know. tell an internet friend. here is a place where you don’t need to worry, it is always a safe space
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Anonymous asked:
Are you the same Trent Gates that cut off circulation to your dick and balls and casually posed with your severed extremity in photos?
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Nope